Over the past few months, this blog has explored the roles, rules and characteristics of children raised in emotionally barren families. We’ve talked about your personal lives, families, friends and characters. But one constant has been the question: “Okay, that’s how I am, so how do I change myself?” Psychologists seem to agree that change …
Category: self help
The Most Common Characteristics of Adult Children
The next three characteristics are common in all the roles. In fact, I think they’re common in all people – well everyone I know, especially the last two. Overreact to changes over which they have no control. Constantly seek approval and affirmation. Usually feel that they are different from other people. Overreaction looks different among …
Three More Characteristics of Children from Troubled Families
As mentioned before, these characteristics first evolved from work with adult children of alcoholics but have now been generalized to anyone raised in an emotionally barren family. In the last two posts we discussed characteristics 1 – 4. Today we’ll look at the next three which include: Have difficulty having fun. Take themselves very seriously. …
Relationship and Rules
As discussed Monday, children raised in emotionally empty homes grow up with three rules: Don’t talk Don’t trust Don’t Feel. It is also true, as mentioned by Lisa Hall Wilson, that living by these rules can be caused by bullying outside the home. What are the ramifications of loving someone who lives by these rules? …
From 4 Roles to 3 Rules
Parents are emotionally unavailable because of an issue in their life which the spouse wants resolved. For example, a mother works full time plus. She is successful in her job but works nienty hours a week. Everyone wants to see more of Mom. If she’d just work less, everything would be better. A parent may …