In every family with an emotionally absent parent, the children learn and adopt one of four roles to deal with the stress and tension in the family. These roles are the hero, rebel or scapegoat, mascot and lost child. The previous two posts talked about the Hero – the child who learned to handle the …
Category: child abuse
The Family Hero – It’s Not All Good
The Hero or Responsible Child is the first of the learned behaviors of children who grow up with an emotionally absent parent. When one parent is not providing emotional support to the family and the other parent is focused on that absence, the children are often left to fend on their own. Often the oldest, …
Physical Abuse, continued
Abuse can happen in any family and to any child. Socio-economic station, race, religion and culture are irrelevant when talking about the welfare of children. Sad isn’t it? A well-educated man or woman, professionally successful, can be an abuser. And their children can be at risk every moment of every day. Characteristics and behaviours commonly …
9 Steps to Forgiveness
Adults who grow up as abused children have many challenges in their adult lives. These symptoms will be discussed in detail in another post. For victims, it is important that we face what happened to us, learn about its effects on our lives, and then begin the tedious, painful process of healing and recovering. It’s …
Physical Abuse of Children
Physical Abuse Is there anything more heart warming than the picture of an adult holding a tiny baby? Such pictures proliferate our culture. This article, the second of four on child abuse, was particularly hard to write. Looking at pictures of children burned, beaten and murdered are hard to look at. It is sickening to …