As mentioned before, these characteristics first evolved from work with adult children of alcoholics but have now been generalized to anyone raised in an emotionally barren family. In the last two posts we discussed characteristics 1 – 4. Today we’ll look at the next three which include: Have difficulty having fun. Take themselves very seriously. …
Category: adult children
Incompletes, Dishonesty and Merciless Judgment: 3 More Characteristics
The next three characteristics of children raised in emotionally barren homes are: (please see the previous post for the source of this list)Have difficulty following a project through from beginning to end. Have difficulty following a project through from beginning to end Lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth. Judge …
13 Characteristics of Children From Emotionally Barren Families
As previously explained, the initial work on the roles learned by children and the rules they live by was completed looking at adult children of alcoholics. Over time, it became clear that these roles and rules applied to any child raised with an emotionally unavailable parent. The reasons for the emotional barrenness of the family …
Relationship and Rules
As discussed Monday, children raised in emotionally empty homes grow up with three rules: Don’t talk Don’t trust Don’t Feel. It is also true, as mentioned by Lisa Hall Wilson, that living by these rules can be caused by bullying outside the home. What are the ramifications of loving someone who lives by these rules? …
From 4 Roles to 3 Rules
Parents are emotionally unavailable because of an issue in their life which the spouse wants resolved. For example, a mother works full time plus. She is successful in her job but works nienty hours a week. Everyone wants to see more of Mom. If she’d just work less, everything would be better. A parent may …