Monday’s post The Family Hero – It’s Not All Good generated many comments and even a couple of email questions. Although Thursday is usually a positive day here, I thought I’d change things up a bit and add a bit more information about Family Heroes. A quick recap: Children who grow up in a home with …
Author: Louise Behiel
Author, therapist, mother and grandmother. I'm on a spiritual journey and consciously work to grow up every day.
The Family Hero – It’s Not All Good
The Hero or Responsible Child is the first of the learned behaviors of children who grow up with an emotionally absent parent. When one parent is not providing emotional support to the family and the other parent is focused on that absence, the children are often left to fend on their own. Often the oldest, …
What Does It Take To Change?
What happens if you aren’t satisfied with your life? Maybe you have a history of broken relationships or go-nowhere jobs? Perhaps on the outside everything looks good but you’re lonely and unhappy on the inside? Or you’re overweight but not happy. There is a process to make these kinds of changes. 1. Resisting change (also …
How Children Cope – 4 Learned Roles for Stress Management
Many decades ago, counselors saw an interesting outcome from treatment of alcoholics (most of whom were male): their clients seemed to do better when the spouse attended a week of treatment geared specifically for them. Proven repeatedly, the conclusion was clear: when the spouse of the alcoholic worked on herself, he recovered more quickly and more strongly. …
More Fun with Awards
When I started Kristen Lamb’s class We Are Not Alone, back in October, I wasn’t so sure about blogging. I’m a voracious reader but I don’t read blogs is what I told myself. So I sat around and watched and learned, got started on twitter and hung out with some of the coolest people I’ve …