Comments for Louise Behiel http://louisebehiel.com Family Matters, With Heart Fri, 03 May 2013 03:44:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.2 Comment on 4 Stages of Healing from Childhood Abuse by Louise Behiel http://louisebehiel.com/4-stages-of-healing/#comment-5110 Louise Behiel Fri, 03 May 2013 03:44:40 +0000 http://louisebehiel.com/?p=1072#comment-5110 generally, we have to look at our lives and see what's happening? are you safe or not? if not, then seek help. if you are not at risk, then it's time to do the internal work. a long and arduous process but well worth it. generally, we have to look at our lives and see what’s happening? are you safe or not? if not, then seek help. if you are not at risk, then it’s time to do the internal work. a long and arduous process but well worth it.

]]> Comment on 4 Stages of Healing from Childhood Abuse by BK http://louisebehiel.com/4-stages-of-healing/#comment-5105 BK Thu, 25 Apr 2013 13:57:57 +0000 http://louisebehiel.com/?p=1072#comment-5105 When do you stop being afraid? How do you truly know the abuse is over? When do you stop being afraid? How do you truly know the abuse is over?

]]> Comment on What is a Stale Book and Why am I so Pi$$ed? by Writer Wednesday: When writing gets out of date | findingharmonyblog http://louisebehiel.com/what-is-a-stale-book-and-why-am-i-so-pied/#comment-5086 Writer Wednesday: When writing gets out of date | findingharmonyblog Wed, 03 Apr 2013 09:40:35 +0000 http://louisebehiel.com/?p=1287#comment-5086 [...] However, if the publication dates are 1975, 1988, 1991 … it is most likely going to feel stale unless it’s been given a severe [...] [...] However, if the publication dates are 1975, 1988, 1991 … it is most likely going to feel stale unless it’s been given a severe [...]

]]> Comment on The Lost Child: Invisible and Unheard by Louise Behiel http://louisebehiel.com/the-third-role-the-lost-child/#comment-5079 Louise Behiel Fri, 22 Mar 2013 18:37:16 +0000 http://louisebehiel.com/?p=726#comment-5079 thank you for stopping by. I too believe you can get better. it's so important to know that and then begin the work. there's lots of support out there and lots of help. i know you'll find it and take these important steps. hugs thank you for stopping by. I too believe you can get better. it’s so important to know that and then begin the work. there’s lots of support out there and lots of help. i know you’ll find it and take these important steps. hugs

]]> Comment on The Lost Child: Invisible and Unheard by Karen http://louisebehiel.com/the-third-role-the-lost-child/#comment-5077 Karen Thu, 21 Mar 2013 08:42:48 +0000 http://louisebehiel.com/?p=726#comment-5077 Thank you so much Louise for your text and all the beautiful comments replies everyone has written here. Since being a child, I sensed that I needed to adapt. Sensing and adapting to my mothers wishes and routines, not disturbing father, and keeping out of my older sister's way to avoid being bullied. Have had a couple of crashes, but only managed to get someone to understand what I meant last year (at age 41) - incl. getting help from a psychiatrist and psychotherapist. Luckily I found a someone that saw me when I was 17, and we are still together. I have got several academic degrees, do a good job, but have not really any idea why and what I really want or what I am interested in. Crashed badly last year, desperately wanting to kill myself, really wanted to protect my small children (and not wanting to see them as a copy of me and my older sister), really afraid of people at work and work itself, hated being dependent of my mother coming to stay with us once a month so I could "feel better", hated what was happening to my husband and our relation... I am trying so hard to find solutions, paths, anchors etc. But I do believe that I can get better, I love my children and husband so much. What is going on now, and what happened in the past, it is so hard to grasp, and it is so hard to realize when I am not thinking straight, being stuck in a state of major fear of everyone and everything. Warmest regards to you all. Thank you so much Louise for your text and all the beautiful comments replies everyone has written here. Since being a child, I sensed that I needed to adapt. Sensing and adapting to my mothers wishes and routines, not disturbing father, and keeping out of my older sister’s way to avoid being bullied. Have had a couple of crashes, but only managed to get someone to understand what I meant last year (at age 41) – incl. getting help from a psychiatrist and psychotherapist.
Luckily I found a someone that saw me when I was 17, and we are still together. I have got several academic degrees, do a good job, but have not really any idea why and what I really want or what I am interested in.
Crashed badly last year, desperately wanting to kill myself, really wanted to protect my small children (and not wanting to see them as a copy of me and my older sister), really afraid of people at work and work itself, hated being dependent of my mother coming to stay with us once a month so I could “feel better”, hated what was happening to my husband and our relation…

I am trying so hard to find solutions, paths, anchors etc. But I do believe that I can get better, I love my children and husband so much. What is going on now, and what happened in the past, it is so hard to grasp, and it is so hard to realize when I am not thinking straight, being stuck in a state of major fear of everyone and everything.

Warmest regards to you all.

]]> Comment on Happy New Year and Blog of the Year by Kourtney http://louisebehiel.com/happy-new-year-and-blog-of-the-year/#comment-4949 Kourtney Sat, 26 Jan 2013 19:15:09 +0000 http://louisebehiel.com/?p=1723#comment-4949 Dream fulfilling. Yes. That's definitely the perfect focus in 2013. :) Dream fulfilling. Yes. That’s definitely the perfect focus in 2013. :)

]]> Comment on New Year: New Lessons About Alzheimer’s Disease by Lynette M. Burrows http://louisebehiel.com/new-year-new-lessons-about-alzheimers-disease/#comment-4946 Lynette M. Burrows Sat, 26 Jan 2013 16:09:41 +0000 http://louisebehiel.com/?p=1739#comment-4946 Oh, Louise. I am so sorry about your mother. Understanding what we can about AD is helpful, so thank you for this post. But AD is a terrible disease that is very painful to watch progress in a loved one. And nearly everyone of your comments include stories about relatives with this awful disease. My heart goes out to each and every one of you. Oh, Louise. I am so sorry about your mother. Understanding what we can about AD is helpful, so thank you for this post. But AD is a terrible disease that is very painful to watch progress in a loved one. And nearly everyone of your comments include stories about relatives with this awful disease. My heart goes out to each and every one of you.

]]> Comment on The Most Common Characteristics of Adult Children by Louise Behiel http://louisebehiel.com/the-most-common-characteristics-of-adult-children/#comment-4862 Louise Behiel Tue, 15 Jan 2013 04:35:31 +0000 http://louisebehiel.com/?p=969#comment-4862 We all have all 4 roles in us and we use them as appropriate, but we tend to stick to one more than the others - it's the one we have had the most success with. success might be getting lots of attention, so you're the hero or the rebel - it's in our life experience and desires. but yes, we do have all 4 roles. We all have all 4 roles in us and we use them as appropriate, but we tend to stick to one more than the others – it’s the one we have had the most success with. success might be getting lots of attention, so you’re the hero or the rebel – it’s in our life experience and desires. but yes, we do have all 4 roles.

]]> Comment on The Most Common Characteristics of Adult Children by Darci Donaldson http://louisebehiel.com/the-most-common-characteristics-of-adult-children/#comment-4861 Darci Donaldson Tue, 15 Jan 2013 04:32:09 +0000 http://louisebehiel.com/?p=969#comment-4861 Can you be more than one role - especially if you were an only child? Can you be more than one role – especially if you were an only child?

]]> Comment on New Year: New Lessons About Alzheimer’s Disease by kourtney http://louisebehiel.com/new-year-new-lessons-about-alzheimers-disease/#comment-4845 kourtney Sun, 13 Jan 2013 19:11:05 +0000 http://louisebehiel.com/?p=1739#comment-4845 He loves her but he's battling cancer right now. She's refusing to eat, drink or talk to anyone. Part of me wishes she would get better, part of me recognizes she probably can't any longer. Tough tough road ahead for everyone. He loves her but he’s battling cancer right now. She’s refusing to eat, drink or talk to anyone. Part of me wishes she would get better, part of me recognizes she probably can’t any longer. Tough tough road ahead for everyone.

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